About CouplesCoach and Dr. Max Vogt

Hello, I’m Max.

If you’re here, you’re not casually browsing. You’re exhausted in a way that doesn’t show on the outside. You’ve done everything a decent, responsible person is supposed to do in a marriage — stayed, tried, adapted, swallowed things you shouldn’t have had to swallow, hoped longer than was reasonable, blamed yourself when nothing changed.

You’ve asked yourself every version of the question except the one that won’t leave you alone: Is marriage itself broken — or am I just living the wrong life with the wrong person? Should I stay and keep paying this cost, or should I walk away and finally breathe again?

That question doesn’t pass. It sits in your body. It shows up when you wake up, when you’re alone in the car, when you’re lying next to someone who feels a mile away. You can function. You can perform. But you can’t settle.

And the worst part is that nothing you’ve been told — not the conversations, not the books, not the counseling — has touched the real issue.

This space is for individuals — not couples — because this is not a shared problem. It’s a personal reckoning. No amount of joint effort, communication work, or mutual intention resolves it.

In fact, at this stage, therapy and counseling as they are commonly practiced often make things worse. They assume belief and commitment are already intact, then teach you how to manage a life you may no longer believe in. That doesn’t heal anything. It stretches the pain out and teaches you to doubt yourself.

CouplesCoach exists because some questions have to be faced cleanly or they will eat years of your life. This work is not about fixing your spouse or saving a relationship at all costs. It’s about helping you get honest, get grounded, and take a clear position on your own life — one you can live with, stand behind, and stop second-guessing at three in the morning. I really hope I can help you!

Disclaimer

I worked as a licensed psychologist in private practice for 32 years. I am no longer licensed and do not provide therapy, counseling, diagnosis, or psychological treatment. I do not meet with clients in person or offer live clinical sessions. The work offered through this site is educational and coaching-based only and is not a substitute for mental health care.